Cute! As if "you men" all think alike and would, therefore, have a clue what this one guy is saying. Funny.
If I heard it, it would depend on the circumstances of the statement for me to decipher it. Some examples:
#1: The girl's mother says, "So, are you two engaged?" The response given would say, "No, but we are possibly headed that way."
#2: A cute young thing asks him, "Hey, I saw you with that other girl. Are you two engaged?" The response given would say, "No, no, we're just dating ... I'm available (wink, wink)."
Depends on the circumstances of the statement and the person making it.
Ah, me. Communication is tenuous at best, isn't it?
Okay... you are correct in that, Stanley... I should have said this:
"Listen to me. We are not engaged anymore. We are unengaged and just dating."
Now, what does that mean? Does he really not want me? Does he want to keep me dangling while he figures out if he's 100% in love or just loves me like a friend.
I am reminded of when Jesus asked Peter if he loved Him. Peter do you agape Me? Yes, Lord, I phileo You. Sigh...
I thought men were complicated in the same way... same kind of wiring, different lamp shades, of course.
If I were to hear a guy say that to a girl under the circumstances you describe, I would conclude he meant, "Look, don't expect anything from me. All I want is to have a nice time with you on occasion. Don't expect me to be serious about our relationship. We're just friends."
I would, given the fact that I'm aware of the history of this relationship based on what you've shared on your blog, guess that he is only saying in words what he has said more than once. "I don't want to marry you. I like you well enough, but I don't want to marry you." And if I were you, I'd say, "Thanks for that, but I'm looking for something more serious and I'd better disengage before I expect a real engagement." But that's just me.
Voice of reason. Thank you, Stanley. Have I told you lately that I love you brother? Consider it said.
This is something I knew, but couldn't put it in perspective because of all the things that have been drowning out my own reason, I guess. Sad, isn't it?
After reading this, I have this to say, "GRRRRRRRRRR!"
I agree with Stan.
However, I cannot offer to be a voice of reason at this time, because quite honestly I can objectively say that I feel too hurt for you at this moment. I love you dear sister and I am sorry you are going through this heartbreak. May the Lord fill up your "hurt" and your "loneliness" with Himself in a way that you are aware that you have more joy, completion, and a future than you ever did with the person you are unengaged to, but just dating. Ugh!
Ah, Julianne... my hero! Hugs to you, dear sis. And I love you, too!
I'm just praying God's will be done. The thing is, he's never known unconditional love before, so he doesn't know what that is. However... that is no excuse for his treatment of me. I thought he was safe. I thought I could trust him. Turns out, I could not. That's the way the world turns.
I know whom I have believed and am persuaded that He is able to keep that which I've committed unt to Him against that day and every day in between! AMEN.
Oh Gina, I am so dense. You know I don't get here very often, but I did come by a time or two since you changed your background to tears. I thought then something must be wrong, but all of the posts seemed o.k. So it passed me by. I'm here today getting caught up on your posts and I run into this one. At first I thought it's just a post. But then one comment changed my mind and I thought this can't be, so. I looked up some of you past posts and I found the one I was not wanting to find the dreaded heartbreaking one.
I don't cry often Gina, but I am crying now for someone I love , you. You are such a beautiful woman inside and out. You deserve someone special. This just was'nt the right one. God knows best he'll find you Mr. Right when the time is right.
If you just want to run away and talk and cry I do both very well. I've done a lot of it in my life. lol I love you Gina !
I love you, too, Exseno... and I could so easily run to Arkansas and I could drown in my tears, but something you said made the sun shine again... he wasn't the right one. Sometimes we get our signals tangled from God. I know that I am supposed to pray for this man and for his Spiritual growth. Sometimes we get choose to love those who hurt us most. Thank you, dear sister and friend. You are precious to me!
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Cute! As if "you men" all think alike and would, therefore, have a clue what this one guy is saying. Funny.
If I heard it, it would depend on the circumstances of the statement for me to decipher it. Some examples:
#1: The girl's mother says, "So, are you two engaged?" The response given would say, "No, but we are possibly headed that way."
#2: A cute young thing asks him, "Hey, I saw you with that other girl. Are you two engaged?" The response given would say, "No, no, we're just dating ... I'm available (wink, wink)."
Depends on the circumstances of the statement and the person making it.
Ah, me. Communication is tenuous at best, isn't it?
Okay... you are correct in that, Stanley... I should have said this:
"Listen to me. We are not engaged anymore. We are unengaged and just dating."
Now, what does that mean? Does he really not want me? Does he want to keep me dangling while he figures out if he's 100% in love or just loves me like a friend.
I am reminded of when Jesus asked Peter if he loved Him. Peter do you agape Me? Yes, Lord, I phileo You. Sigh...
I thought men were complicated in the same way... same kind of wiring, different lamp shades, of course.
Ah! Context! That's helpful.
If I were to hear a guy say that to a girl under the circumstances you describe, I would conclude he meant, "Look, don't expect anything from me. All I want is to have a nice time with you on occasion. Don't expect me to be serious about our relationship. We're just friends."
I would, given the fact that I'm aware of the history of this relationship based on what you've shared on your blog, guess that he is only saying in words what he has said more than once. "I don't want to marry you. I like you well enough, but I don't want to marry you." And if I were you, I'd say, "Thanks for that, but I'm looking for something more serious and I'd better disengage before I expect a real engagement." But that's just me.
Voice of reason. Thank you, Stanley. Have I told you lately that I love you brother? Consider it said.
This is something I knew, but couldn't put it in perspective because of all the things that have been drowning out my own reason, I guess. Sad, isn't it?
After reading this, I have this to say, "GRRRRRRRRRR!"
I agree with Stan.
However, I cannot offer to be a voice of reason at this time, because quite honestly I can objectively say that I feel too hurt for you at this moment. I love you dear sister and I am sorry you are going through this heartbreak. May the Lord fill up your "hurt" and your "loneliness" with Himself in a way that you are aware that you have more joy, completion, and a future than you ever did with the person you are unengaged to, but just dating. Ugh!
Blessings to you sweet sister, Julianne
Ah, Julianne... my hero! Hugs to you, dear sis. And I love you, too!
I'm just praying God's will be done. The thing is, he's never known unconditional love before, so he doesn't know what that is. However... that is no excuse for his treatment of me. I thought he was safe. I thought I could trust him. Turns out, I could not. That's the way the world turns.
I know whom I have believed and am persuaded that He is able to keep that which I've committed unt to Him against that day and every day in between! AMEN.
Oh Gina,
I am so dense. You know I don't get here very often, but I did come by a time or two since you changed your background to tears. I thought then something must be wrong, but all of the posts seemed o.k. So it passed me by. I'm here today getting caught up on your posts and I run into this one. At first I thought it's just a post. But then one comment changed my mind and I thought this can't be, so. I looked up some of you past posts and I found the one I was not wanting to find the dreaded heartbreaking one.
I don't cry often Gina, but I am crying now for someone I love , you. You are such a beautiful woman inside and out. You deserve someone special. This just was'nt the right one. God knows best he'll find you Mr. Right when the time is right.
If you just want to run away and talk and cry I do both very well. I've done a lot of it in my life. lol
I love you Gina !
I love you, too, Exseno... and I could so easily run to Arkansas and I could drown in my tears, but something you said made the sun shine again... he wasn't the right one. Sometimes we get our signals tangled from God. I know that I am supposed to pray for this man and for his Spiritual growth. Sometimes we get choose to love those who hurt us most. Thank you, dear sister and friend. You are precious to me!
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