I see so many problems in our families. I have to wonder what is the underlying cause of these problems? Absolutely, those families that do not go to church together, and who do not pray together do not stay together. Numerous polls and surveys empirically prove this. However, what is causing this moral deterioration in our homes? Here's an example from a recent Redbook survey.
A journalist from a small town must go to the big city to cover a
story but isn’t familiar with the city at all. The spouse calls a friend
to pull guide duty in that city. When the journalist and the guide met,
sparks flew. No touching, no hand holding, just looking deeply into one
another’s eyes and lots of meals together. It was like a high school
romance. Is that cheating?
A woman is thinking about going to her
thirty year high school reunion and by
wife went to lunch with some friends and met a man friend of one of her
friends. They hit it off, making each other laugh and told each other
secrets and became best friends in a very short amount of time. She knew
she could tell him anything without any recriminations or judgments
from him; and she even told him things she would never tell her husband.
They talked and texted every day, several times a day. When her husband
finally met his wife’s friend, he was uncomfortable at his good looks
and his familiarity with his wife. He asked her to quit seeing and
talking to him. She reluctantly agreed to do so. Then, within a few
days, she went back to lunching with her friend, and talking with him,
but keeping her “best” friend a secret from her husband. Is that
All of these stories are told as true in a recent Redbook
magazine. Are your surprised that most respondents to the poll said the
first account was not cheating, the second one was not cheating, and
only concerning the third account did more respondents say it was
cheating saying that sharing secrets that you do not share with your
spouse is cheating.
In a 2006 Pew Research poll, the only issue considered more morally
wrong than cheating on taxes (79% consided that morally wrong) was 88
percent of the people said cheating on your spouse is morally wrong.
However, sex between unmarried adults the respondents were split 35
percent morally wrong and 37 percent saying it wasn’t a moral issue at
all with 22 percent saying it was morally acceptable.
Albeit that was
six years ago, the General Social Survey has been asking the same
questions on their surveys for 40 years and that Survey says basically
the same thing. In fact, since 1973 there is a 10 percent increase in
the number of Americans who see adultery as morally wrong with 14
percent of woman reporting their infidelity and 20 percent of men reporting
With so many voicing this view, why are we
subjected to so much infidelity and homosexualism on TV and in movies?
What is wrong with the entertainment industry as well as the marketing
industry that we are subjected to offensive content which is not in
harmony with our inner most feelings about moral behaviors? Do
entertainment and marketing execs have their fingers on the pulse of
America or are we actually being hypocritical when we answer those poll
questions? Or... are we buying the hooey Hollywood dishes out, and exhibiting that purchase with morally wrong behavior?
What is our moral obligation? Should we tell our best
friend that her husband is cheating on her? Should we tell our boss that
we saw his wife out with a good looking man, their heads close together
and their feet playing footsie?