WHEN GOD SAYS NO
I heard a
story about a young girl who wrote a letter to a missionary to let him know
that her class had been praying for him.
But evidently she'd been told not to request a response to her letter
because the missionaries were very busy.
So the missionary got a kick out of her letter. It said, "Dear Mr. Missionary, we are
praying for you. But we are not
expecting an answer."
I can't help but
think that that little girl summarized the prayer lives of many Christians.
Sometimes we pray without expecting an answer, even though God has assured us
that He does indeed hear our prayers.
David said, "I love the Lord, because He has heard my voice and my
supplications." (Psalm 116:1). But
I think many of us struggle with the nagging question, "Is God really
listening to me?" Yes, He heard
David, He heard Elijah, and He heard the apostles. But does He hear me?
How do we
really know that our prayers are answered?
Sure, there are times when we see visible results. We may pray for someone who's sick and the
next week they get well. But more often,
our prayers don't produce flashing "neon" answers. We pray for help in financial problems, and
we don't see things get any better. We
pray for guidance in making right decisions, but the decisions don't get any
easier. We pray for relationships with
other people to improve, but they just seem to get worse. How do we as Christians account for that
happening? How do we explain the fact
that so many of our prayers seem to go "unanswered"?
The truth is,
for a child of God there is no such thing as an unanswered prayer. Maybe you've heard it said before that God
answers prayer in three ways. Sometimes
the answer is "yes." Sometimes
the answer is "no." And
sometimes the answer is "wait a while." It's easy to accept an answer of
"yes," but what about when God says, "no"?
Let me suggest
three principles:
First of all,
we need to trust God enough to realize that our all-loving, all-powerful Father
loves us and has our best interest at heart.
So when it seems that God says "no" to our prayers, we must
trust Him enough to understand that there must be a good reason for it. It may be beyond our limited ability to
understand, but we must simply trust God.
Secondly, we
must not forsake God. Disappointment is
a dangerous, powerful thing. When we get
the feeling that God isn't listening to us, that He has said "no" to
some prayer, we have a tendency to feel disappointed in Him. And Satan whispers to us, "God said He
loves you, but He's not here." And
if we allow that disappointment to harbor in our hearts, it can drive a wedge
between us and God. We must continue to
be faithful to our responsibility before God.
And thirdly,
we need to realize that the answer may not be "no," but only
"wait a while." God always
answers our prayers immediately, but sometimes there's a delay in the giving of
the answer and that can be a difficult thing for us to accept. The ability to wait for an answer is one of
the marks of maturity. Be willing to let
God answer in his own time, in his own way, and in his own power.
Many people
see God as a divine vending machine in which you deposit one prayer and out
pops a blessing. But what happens when
you put your money in the Coke machine and nothing comes out? You get angry, you kick the Coke
machine. So it's not surprising that
such a view of God and prayer leads to disappointment when God says no.
I believe that
we need to foster an entirely different view of prayer from that one. Our God is the Great God of the Universe, the
Creator of all things that exist other than Himself. For us to even venture to speak to Him is
presumptuous. For us to ask Him to pay
attention to our requests and then hope for Him to meet them requires bold
expectation. In fact such would be
arrogance if it were not for the simple fact that God tells us to do just that.
Looking from
the proper perspective, we will not ask "What happens when God says
no?" but rather "What happens when God says yes?" That the God of the heavens would listen to
us and our needs is a great testimony to His great love for us. And it is that love that will lead Him to say
no from time to time. At those times, we
must trust Him knowing that he loves us and desires what is best for us. We must never forsake Him nor our duty toward
Him. And we must realize that what we
interpret to be an answer of "no" may just be God telling us to wait
a while.
"This is
the confidence that we have in Him, that if we ask anything according to His
will, He hears us." (I John 5:14)
Have a great day!
Alan Smith
Helen Street Church of Christ
Fayetteville, North Carolina