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Traits of a Wise Husband (of course, there are lots more)
Pro 20:22 Do not say, "I will recompense
evil"; Wait for the LORD, and He will save you.
The wise husband
will not retaliate or seek revenge against friends, enemies or his wife.
Waiting upon the LORD is not an easy thing to do, but God deals with each
person within that person’s own special heart language. Only God had build and
restore friendships and marriages through forgiveness which is a vertical
thing, not a horizontal thing. Forgiving someone is not saying, “What you did
is okay, I condone it.” Forgiving someone is saying, “I love you anyway, no
matter what you did. We’ll bury the thing and not think about it again.”
Forgiveness is the best expression of love except for laying one’s life down
for another.
Job 11:12 For an
empty-headed man will be wise, when a wild donkey's colt is born a man.
Solomon
had a lot to say about wives such as living with a contentious woman is like
the constant dripping of rain (he should know he had 300 of them and 700
concubines). His wisdom along with some old Hebrew adages are laid out in
simple text in Proverbs. He spoke directly to his son about being wise in the
world, with others, in business, and many situations. Some particularly seem to
resonate with marriage wisdom from a woman’s point of view.
Proverbs 1:5 A wise man will hear and increase learning, And a man of understanding
will attain wise counsel,
Listen
to your wives, husbands. So often the act of listening and hearing and
responding to your wife will avoid misunderstandings and arguments, but more
importantly, you will better understand her.
Proverbs 12:5 The thoughts of the righteous are right, But the counsels of the wicked are deceitful.
Husbands, keep
your thoughts under control. The man who has a wandering eye, and seeks outside
entertainment; who does not drink from his fountain is foolish beyond measure.
The pleasures of the body are fleeting at best. The intimacy of marriage lasts
much longer, is more satisfying, and is much warmer when the bones get old and
tired.
Pro 12:13 The wicked is ensnared by the transgression
of his lips, But the righteous will come through trouble. Proverbs 12:19 The truthful lip shall be established
forever, But a lying tongue is but for a moment. 20 Deceit is in the heart of those who devise
evil, But counselors of peace have joy… 22 Lying
lips are an abomination to the LORD, But those who deal truthfully are His
delight.
Don’t lie to
cover up anything. What a tangled web we weave when we practice to deceive.
When a person is caught in a lie, then trust starts to disintegrate. When trust
is gone, that deep abiding love dissipates, too. It is very difficult to love
someone you do not trust. It is interesting that there are four verses in this
one chapter dealing with deceit. Speaking of peace…
Pro 12:16 A fool's wrath is known at once, But a prudent man covers shame.
When anger rules
the man, folly sticks to him like gum on a shoe. A wise husband will be lord
over his anger. Righteous anger is a wonderful thing and spurs us to do
something about injustices, but foolish anger does nothing but stir up strife
and sows discord in the marriage which is something the LORD hates (Proverbs
6:18). Angry words never solve anything, and only cut to the bone wounds that
take forever to heal. Soft words turn away wrath. Just remember that always
being right doesn’t always make you happy. Joy in marriage is work. Love in
marriage is work. Anger is a tool of Satan that steals joy and distorts love,
be wary of that fiery dart from Hell.
Pro 12:14 A man will be satisfied with good by the
fruit of his mouth, And the
recompense of a man's hands will be rendered to him.
There
is nothing so wonderful as a hard-working man. There is something about hard
work (either in an office, a farm, or a shop) that makes a man smell good to
the soul. The godly esteem that exudes from a man who’s put in a good day’s
work drapes around the wife’s shoulders and comforts her with warm security. Hard
work says, “I love you, my darling wife,” more than words. It goes deeper into
the fibers of her being and encases her
heart in a loving, gentle embrace.
Pro 20:7 The righteous man walks
in his integrity; His children are
blessed after him.
There
is a whole sermon in this verse. Watching the political game for this
presidential election I wonder does any man/woman in politics possess this
quite desirable quality? I also wonder about the media, and business owners,
workers, Sunday school teachers, preachers, doctors, lawyers, and Indian
chiefs. A man who considers honesty and integrity above himself honors God and
his family. Someone who always points a finger, never taking responsibility for
his own foolishness will tear down the wall of trust that protects the
marriage, and heaps shame upon his children.
Pro 20:30 Blows
that hurt cleanse away evil, As do stripes the inner depths of the heart.
There is no wiser
husband than the one who bends his knee to the LORD for his discipline,
recognizing the LORD’s voice, and obeying Him above all others. He who puts God
first and his wife second will have a long and blessed marriage.
Isaiah
54:5 For
your Maker is your husband, The
LORD of hosts is His name; And
your Redeemer is the Holy One
of Israel;
He is called the God of the whole earth.
That is quite a high mark to attain as a
husband. God knew there would be only one Jesus, and when Paul told husbands to
love their wives like Jesus loves the church, he wasn’t kidding; but the fact
remains: there is only one Jesus.
Ladies and gentlemen, we will have the perfect
everything when we get to Heaven. For now, we’ll have to strive for what is
attainable and the Bible is quite vocal on how husbands should behave, and the
wise husband shall have mountains of blessings.
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